Accepting the Dreams and Reality

Big question!

Question : What if you  have seen big dreams like bungalow, car, money.. all your life…and one day u come to know that it’s not your cup of tea…how to deal with it?
Accepting the  difference between big dreams &  reality.

Answer :

Its nice to dream big and hope that, you’ll own all that you desired!
But maybe one day suddenly, you may realize that its going to take a very long time to get  all that.
Given the fact, your current salary and family background, suddenly it may dawn upon to you that its not possible!
Its a humble request, don’t let ambitions die.
Do modify them but don’t let ambitions die.
There is a saying in Marathi..
Anthrun Pahun Paay Pasrave..
See your boundaries, limitations and plan your steps.
So maybe with the money,  you cant buy a very posh bungalow, but you can buy a nice cozy flat, which gives you the required comfort.
You might not get a Rolls Royce but maybe a Honda City might fall in your life.
So be happy with that.

Another thing is don’t keep saying that i don’t have the best.
It is said that, you attract the kind of events you feel.
So if you keep reeling in lack then, you will live in lack.
If you keep saying oh i don’t have enough and all.
Then you won’t see opportunities.
But if you reel in gratefulness and a feeling that i have enough and enjoy whatever you have; with a smile, then you will have your mind open.
Then you can see opportunities coming and you can make use of that.
It might take little effort but you can make use of opportunities and that can slowly slowly fulfill your desires.

Maybe right now, nothing seems practical and possible.
Agreed.. But keep that little faith that miracles can happen.
Know that you’ll be given what is required.
Be grateful and offer this prayer in helplessness, that let prosperity flow in my life.
That, i don’t know how and when.. but you guide me so that i have so much money that i can help myself and my loved ones.

Knowing this, that one day you’ll be prosperous.
Don’t get disheartened suddenly, visualizing future right now.
Fortune favors the brave.
Prosperity embraces the one who gives his best.
Be ready to put that extra effort in.
Practice little sacrifice.
Have a vision and work slowly for it.
Pray more.  Serve more.
Don’t wait for happiness to come in.
Be happy and achieve all that.
Be happy with all you get.
Dress a smile and live in gratitude!
For one day,you will get what is rightfully yours.

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Love Prayers Blessings!

Keep rocking!

JaiGurudeva

Swapnil

Collection of Knowledge Sheets on Love by Sri Sri

Collection of knowledge sheets by Sri Sri Ravishankar on Love.

Sri Sri

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http://www.artofliving.org/three-kinds-love

Three kinds of Love

There are three kinds of Love. The Love that comes out of Charm, that which comes out of comfort, and the Divine Love. Do you see what I am saying? The love that comes out of charm does not last long. It comes out of unfamiliarity or out of attraction. In this, you lose the attraction fast, and boredom sets in, like most love marriages. This love may diminish and bring along with it fear, uncertainty, insecurity, and sadness. The Love that comes out of comfort and familiarity grows. But this Love has no thrill, no enthusiasm, joy, or fire to it. For example, you are more comfortable with an old friend who is a familiar person, rather than with a new person. The Divine Love supersedes both the above. The Divine Love has ever newness. The closer you go; there is more charm and depth. The Divine Love has comfort, enthusiasm, and familiarity. There is never boredom and it keeps everyone on their toes. Worldly love can be like an ocean, yet an ocean has a bottom. The Divine Love is like the sky which is limitless, infinite. From the bottom of the Ocean, soar into the vast sky. To know more about Divine Love, refer to our Bhakti Sutras.

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http://www.artofliving.org/what-are-signs-love

What are the signs of love

When you love someone you dont see anything wrong in them. Even if you see some fault in them you justify the fault and say Well everyone does it, it is normal. You think you have not done enough for them. The more you do, the more you want to do for them. They are always in your mind. Ordinary things become extraordinary. For eg. A baby winking at grandmother. You want them to be yours exclusively. When you love someone, you want to see them always happy and you want them to have the best . You get hurt even over small things. 33% extra knowledge !!! (Laughter)

Sri Sri: You wish someone of what they dont have ? Right ?

Answer: Yes !

Sri Sri: When you say Best Wishes, you imply that they are not best NOW I tell you, NOW is the best. If you realise this tomorrow can only be better.

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http://www.artofliving.org/your-expressions-love

Your expressions of love

You feel a lot of love for someone and they do not take it. What do you do?

• Get frustrated
• Turn the love into hatred and wish for revenge
• Again and again remind them how much you love them and how little they love you
• Become fussy and cranky
• Throw tantrums
• Feel humiliated and try to protect your respect
• Resolve never to love again
• Feel hurt and mistreated
• Try to be aloof and indifferent

…and you have seen that none of these work. They only make the situation worse.

What is the way out of this? How do you maintain your lovingness?

• Have patience and change your expression of love.
• Be centered and limit your expression of love. Sometimes over-expression of love puts people off.
• Take it for granted that they love you too and accept their style of expression. For example, a mother with three kids. One child talks, one child does not talk, one child throws tantrums. Mother’s love is the same irrespective of their behavior.
• Genuinely acknowledge their love for you. This will turn your demand into gratefulness and the more you are grateful in life, the more love comes your way.
• Know that hurt is part of love and take responsibility for it. When you move away from your center, you will definitely get hurt and the nature of worldliness is misery.

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http://www.artofliving.org/love-shadow-self

Love Is The Shadow Of The Self

When you love something, you have a sense of belongingness with it. You can only love something, because it is belongs to you. If it is not yours, you cannot love it. Love is the shadow of the Self. The bigger the Self, the bigger the shadow, and the bigger the love. When the love is cast over the entire creation, then you are the Big Self. That is the Lordship. When the Lordship dawns on the Self, there is perennial celebration.

http://www.artofliving.org/love-your-very-existence-0

Love is your very existence

Suppose someone shows a lot of love to you, what do you do?

• Often you do not know how to respond.
• You feel obliged and bound.
• Shrink or shy away.
• Feel foolish and awkward.
• Try to reciprocate even though it is not genuine.
• Doubt the love expressed and ones own worthiness.
• You are afraid of losing respect because love does not allow distance and respect tends to keep distance.
• Your ego hardens and does not allow you to receive and reciprocate.
• Anything else. (Fill in the blanks).

The ability to receive genuine love comes with the ability to give love. The more you are centered and, by experience, know that you are love, the more you feel at home with any amount of love being expressed in any manner, for deep inside, you know :

Love is not an emotion !! It is your very Existence !!!

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http://www.artofliving.org/abiding-self

Abiding in the self

Abiding in the self you become the valentine for the whole world. Spirit is the valentine of matter and matter is the valentine of the spirit. They are made for each other. They uphold each other. If you hold onto matter and do not respect the spirit, then matter is not pleased. If you honor the spirit then you will care for the world, and when you care for the world, it will take care of you.

I am the valentine of the whole world and I reside in every heart. If you are my valentine, you will see me everywhere. Have the same love for everyone, with different flavors. You cannot behave the same way with everyone, but you can love all of them the same. Love transcends behavior and etiquette.

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http://www.artofliving.org/whom-are-you-ease-0

With Whom Are You At Ease?

With whom do you feel really comfortable and at ease?

You feel comfortable with someone who does not question your love, someone who takes for granted that you love them. Isn’t it?

If someone doubts your love and you constantly have to prove it, this becomes a heavy load on your head. When someone doubts your love, they start questioning you and demanding explanations for all your actions. To explain everything you do is a burden. Your nature is to shed the burden, and so you don’t feel comfortable.

When you question the reason behind an action, you are asking for justice for yourself. You are creating a distance when you ask for justice. Your whole intention is to come close, but you are creating a distance.

You are a witness to all your actions. You are as much a stranger to your own actions as you are to someone else’s. You are the Eternal Witness. When someone asks for an explanation, they are speaking from doership and imposing that doership on you. This brings discomfort.

If somebody is just there with you, like a part of you, they don’t question you. They are like your arm. There is thorough understanding and questions don’t arise. Neither demand an explanation nor give an explanation.

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http://www.artofliving.org/authority-and-love

Authority and love

Mistakes keep happening all the time. Often you get irritated by them and want to correct them. How much can you correct? There are two situations when you correct others’ mistakes: 1. You correct someone’s mistake because it bothers you. But even if you correct it, this does not work. 2. You correct someone’s mistake, not because it bothers you, but for their sake so that they can grow. To correct mistakes you need authority and love. Authority and love seem to be contradictory, but in reality they are not. Authority without love is stifling and does not work. Love without authority is shallow. A friend needs to have both authority and love but they need to be in the right combination. This can happen if you are totally dispassionate and centred. When you allow room for mistakes, you can be both authoritative and sweet. That is how the Divine is, the right balance of both. Krishna and Jesus had both. People, when they are in love, exercise authority with each other. Authority and love exist in all relationships. Abhay says, “The husband just loves and the wife has authority.” Mikey asks, “Is that a mistake?” Guruji says, “I don’t want to correct it!” (laughter)

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http://www.artofliving.org/change-and-love

Change and Love

There are some who are longing for change. Feeling that everything is stagnant in their lives, they want to change partners, careers, dwellings. And there are some who are scared of change. They feel secure the way they are. There are some who see the change, but don’t acknowledge it out of fear. There are some who do not notice the change at all. There are some who do not think there is anything to change. And there are some who realize that everything is changing, yet see there is something that is non-changing. Those who recognize the non-changing amidst the change are the wisest of all.

Question: Must love as well always change?

Sri Sri: Love is your nature. What is your nature cannot change. But the expression of love changes. Because love is your nature, you cannot but love. The mother has total love for the child, but sometimes she feeds the child, sometimes she is strict with the child. “Come on, sit and write!”
Sometimes she slaps the child. She does this out of love, and these are all different modes of love. So, the expression of love changes but love itself does not change, because love is your nature.

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http://www.artofliving.org/love-and-renunciation

Love and Renunciation

Only one who has renounced can truly love. To the degree you have renounced, to that degree you have the ability to love. Often people think those who renounce cannot love, and those who love cannot renounce. This is because so-called renunciants do not seem to be in love, and so-called lovers are very possessive and are in need. True love is non-possessive and brings freedom, and renunciation is nothing but freedom. Only in freedom can love fully blossom. When in love you say, “I want nothing, I just want this.” Renunciation is, ” I don’t want anything. I am free.” In love there is no other need. Renunciation is having no need. Love and renunciation, although appearing to be opposites, are two sides of the same coin.

McQueen said — They are the same side of the same coin. (laughter)

Tara asked — Does this mean the lover renounces his beloved?

Guruji responded — You renounce the attachment, the possessiveness. Renunciation doesn’t diminish love; it enhances it.

Only renunciation can sustain love and joy. Without renunciation love turns into misery, possessiveness, jealousy and anger. Renunciation brings contentment and contentment sustains love. Without renunciation one gets discontented, frustrated, sad, fearful, suspicious, analytical. And the whole soap opera begins. And this is what we find in society , don’t we?

The so-called renunciants have run away from life frustrated and disappointed. Real renunciation is born out of knowledge and wisdom, knowledge of life in the background of time and space and in the context of this magnanimous universe.

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http://www.artofliving.org/five-insights

The five insights

Love is your nature. But in the process of its expression, you often get caught up in the object. This is when your sight is caught outside. To return back to your nature, you need insight. Pain is the first insight. It takes you away from the object and turns you towards your body and mind. Energy is the second insight. A bolt of energy brings you back to your Self. Divine Love is the third insight. A glimpse of Divine love makes you so complete and over rules all the relative pleasures. Trance is the fourth insight. An elevation of consciousness and partial awareness of the physical reality around is Trance. The conviction in the non-dual existence, that all is made up of one and only one, is the fifth insight. When love glows, it is bliss, When it flows, it is compassion, When it blows, it is anger, When it ferments, it is jealously, When it is all Nos, it is hatred, When it acts, it is perfection, When love Knows, it is ME!

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http://www.artofliving.org/personal-and-impersonal

The personal and impersonal

How can we reconcile the impersonal with the personal?

In love you raise the object to life. When you love an object it becomes life. For children everything is personal. Children take each object they play with and make it totally personal. Even a stone has a face; even the sun laughs. When you attach emotion, the whole creation becomes personal. When you remove the emotion, even people become objects. Violence is removing the emotion. How a person can kill another person: it is when they do not see them as a person, they see them as an object. But even a stone attracts reverence when it becomes personal.

Dean says: In military training they teach soldiers to see people as killing objects coming toward you that need to be killed first.

Susannah says: In the temple even a stone is elevated to the level of spirit.

The impersonal cannot attract reverence. Most people see God as impersonal and therefore they do not progress.

Dean and Susannah say: “That’s why we need a Guru!”

Chan says: When we say something isn’t real, then it’s impersonal. When we personalize

something, we make it real. So then, what is reality?

You are the Reality. You are not the thoughts, you are not the emotions nor actions. You are not even a person…!

Exercise: What you now see as impersonal, see it as personal. And when you feel any negative emotion towards anybody, see them as impersonal. And pretend that you yourself are a robot.

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http://www.artofliving.org/love-question-answer-0

Love! The Question Of An Answer

In a congregation, Sri Sri asked, ” How many of you are feeling strong?” Many people raised their hands.

Sri Sri : “Why?”

Because YOU are with us!!!

Sri Sri : “Only those who feel weak can surrender”.

All those who were feeling strong were taken aback!

If you are in love, you feel weak because love makes you weak. Yet there is no power stronger than love. Love is strength. (All those who had raised their hands for strong suddenly felt weak!). Yet love is the greatest power on earth. You feel absolutely powerful when you are with the Divine.

Someone asked: “But why do we keep alternating between the two?”

Sri Sri: “That is the fluctuation in life.”

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http://www.artofliving.org/love-and-truth

Love and Truth

Why would someone tell a lie to their close ones or to their beloved?

This is a question most often asked by lovers. Since love cannot stand untruth, this causes relationships to break up. The solution lies in understanding the paradox of love and truth. People tell lies just to save and maintain their love. The fear that the truth might damage their love causes lies to be told between husband and wife, boyfriend and girlfriend, parents and children and in family situations.

In love you feel weak and truth brings strength. Yet why do people prefer love over truth, i.e. weakness over strength?! (laughter)

No one wants to sacrifice love. Thus people are ready to give up the truth for their love. Love takes the luster out of truth. Sometimes truth can make love bitter while in love even lies can appear sweet, like Krishna’s lies to his mother Yashoda! The truth that does not nourish love has no sense and the love that cannot withstand the truth is not true love. When one is assured that the love is so strong that the truth can neither break it nor cause bitterness, then the truth prevails and love shines. Truth has judgments, but true love is beyond judgments. Thus true love makes you weak and yet it is the greatest strength.

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http://www.artofliving.org/respect-and-ego

Respect and Ego

There are two types of respect.

1. Respect that comes to you because of your position, fame or wealth. This type of respect is impermanent. It can be lost once you lose your wealth or status.
2. Respect that comes because of your virtues like honesty, kindness, commitment, patience and your smile. This respect, no one can take away.

The less you are attached to your virtues, the more self respect you have. If you get attached to your virtues, you look down upon everybody else, and the virtues start diminishing. Non- attachment to virtues brings the highest self respect.

Often one confuses ego with self esteem. Ego needs the other for comparison; self esteem is just confidence in oneself. For example, a gentleman claims that he is thorough in Mathematics or Geography, this is self esteem. But to say that I know better than you, that is Ego.

Ego simply means lack of respect to the Self.

Ego upsets you very often. Self esteem is immune to getting upset by external factors. In self respect, everything is a game, winning or losing has no meaning, every step is joy, and every move is celebration.

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http://www.artofliving.org/love-1

Love

Do you love someone, because they are great or unique?I tell you – you are hopeless!

Why do you love someone? Is it because of their qualities or is it because of a sense of kinship or intimacy?

You can love someone for their qualities and not feel a sense of kinship. This type of love gives rise to competition and jealousy. Such is not the case when love arises out of kinship.

If you love someone for their qualities, then when the quality changes or you get used to the quality, love also changes. However, if you love someone out of kinship, because they belong to you, then that love remains for life-times.

People say “I love God, because He is great”. This is no big thing. If God is found to be ordinary, just one of us, then your love for God collapses! If you love God, because He is yours, then however God is, whether He creates or destroys, you still love Him. The love for kinship is like the love for yourself.

Question: Many people do not have love for themselves?

Answer: No! It is the other way around. They love themselves so much, that they want better qualities and better appearance for themselves. This love of qualities makes them be hard on one self.

If love is based on the quality of a person, then the love is not stable – after sometime the qualities change and the love becomes shaky. Loving someone because of their greatness or uniqueness is Third-rate love. Loving someone because they belong to you, great or otherwise, is unconditional love.

Knowledge, Sadhana, Seva and Satsang help to bring about a sense of belonging in no time. When love springs forth from a sense of belongingness then the actions and qualities do not over shadow the love. Neither the qualities nor actions can be perfect all the time. Love and a feeling of kinship alone can be perfect.

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Here is the search page result : http://www.artofliving.org/knowledge-sheet-search/love?page=1

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Love Prayers Blessings,

JaiGurudeva!

Swapnil

Meditation is not difficult

Meditation is not difficult

shared via : http://www.artofliving.org/in-en/meditation/meditation-for-you/meditation-not-difficult

Meditation is not difficult
Meditation made easy
Simple solutions to some of the most common reasons why people find meditation difficult

“Meditate? Who, me?” A common reaction by many who feel that meditation is the most difficult thing to do. When we are so used to doing some activity all the time then sitting with our eyes closed for even 10 minutes and doing nothing sounds absurd. Let us look at some of the most common reasons why people find meditation difficult, while we offer some simple solutions to these apparently difficult situations.
#1: You say – I work for 10 hours in a high-pressure job, barring the time lost in traffic. It is difficult to find the time to meditate!

We say – If you don’t have time, this is exactly why you should meditate. Confused? Meditation adds hours to our day. Meditating for 15-20 minutes daily can help improve concentration and productivity, the work gets done faster and you are left with more time which you can use to relax the mind and recharge yourself after a long day at work. Remember: If you find 15 minutes to meditate in the day, you will be able to find time for everything else. You definitely need to try for yourself to really see how difficult it is when you don’t meditate!

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#2: You say – Sit still at one place with eyes closed for 20 minutes? Are you kidding me?

We say –It’s really not that difficult when it comes to actually sitting and meditating. At the end of those 20 minutes, you may not even realize that you had been sitting for that long! Moreover,there’s nothing more refreshing than a short meditation session. In fact, it might make you feel as though you have just woken up from an eight-hour-long deep restful sleep.

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#3: You say – I’m considered cool in college. If I sit and meditate, I’ll be looked at as somebody from another planet! My friends would ask, “What’s wrong with you?”

We say –This is a general misconception among some young people. Meditation is no longer an alien concept. Lots of people want to learn this technique and derive its benefits.Moreover, it works for everyone – kids, youth and the old – at different levels. As a student, you may witness increased concentration and improved exam results.You are also better able to handle your relationship with your parents and peers.

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#4: You say –My family thinks that if I meditate I would become a sanyasi (recluse). I don’t want to upset them.

We say – You only need to be skilful in dealing with this, and again, meditation can help you acquire the skill to become more sensitive, intuitive and well equipped to connect with your family better. It might be initially challenging to make them understand your viewpoint but as you keep meditating, they will start observing positive changes in you – your personality and speech become pleasant, and communication skills get better. Slowly, they start getting comfortable with the idea. It would definitely be ideal if all of you meditate together as it is always more effective in creating a positive environment.

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#5: You say – Once I close my eyes, what am I supposed to do next? What will happen in meditation?

We say – Such a feeling is natural because we are always so caught up in action that letting go completely seems impossible. But take it easy! All you need to do in meditation is simply relax. To start with, you can take guidance from an experienced teacher at the Sahaj Samadhi Course, who can lead you into meditation. Or you can practice it at home by listening to a online guided meditation and you will see how easy it is to slip into a state of doing nothing!

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#6: You say – It’s always too noisy at home. I have children and it is difficult to find some quiet moments when I can sit and meditate.

We say – Have you noticed when you are tired or sleepy, how you can doze off simply anywhere -on a moving bus or train, or in the middle of a movie at the cinema? This happens because we don’t have a choice and the mind automatically switches off,even amidst so much noise. In meditation, we have a choice to switch off our mind for some time. We have a say over our mind!

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#7: You say – When society is facing numerous challenges– poverty, conflict, unemployment, corruption – at this time you expect me to sit and meditate when so much needs to be done?

We say – This is exactly the time when meditation can help. It gives you the strength within to be able to serve, to help bring about a resolution to conflicts. When you meditate, your aura starts affecting the people around you. When you are calm, rather than being affected, you start positively influencing the environment. Over time, regular meditation will help change a lot of things – you might notice good things happening around you because you meditate!

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The wisdom in this article is based on talks and discourses given by Sri Sri Ravi Shankar in different satsangs around the world.

Misunderstanding.

Misunderstanding.

Misunderstanding

Usually when do you realize you misunderstood someone or someone else did.
It’s when, you can’t talk freely with the other person.
Or when he/she doesn’t reply what you want it to be.

What should you do, to deal with misunderstandings?
First and foremost, is the moment, you sense a little discomfort in the communication and you feel its not the same or weird, that time; you first halt.
Know what’s going on in the mind.
To avoid further misunderstanding, its important to gather whether its your doubt or a reality!
Many times, its what you think and you make it a reality.
You hook on to an action and your doubt and relate every action henceforth with the doubt.

Thereafter any word spoken is unheard of and sounds bitter.
So, gather the reality, gather your thoughts, question your doubts before questioning a person’s behavior.

If you find its genuine.
Move ahead.

Go a step ahead in finding the reality.
Find out, if its a intended one or happened by reaction.

Many times you have suppressed thoughts and emotions and instead of carefully letting them off, sometimes when things become too much, you rather spit it out on the person standing in front of you!
So question, was it intended on accident.
If yes, then give the person a chance.

Other times someone has unanswered questions about you in their mind and every-time it seeks the answer.
You will so find, such people don’t talk properly.
They will not answer, the way you want.
A good thing is to create a space of trust and put an open question to their behavior.
Answer all their questions.Leave no room for a stranger to reside in.

If you happened to hold on to some questions, then dare to ask them now. or continue to reel in restlessness.

You might lose the person once but it’s better than losing him/her in every statement.
ONE other time when misunderstanding might take place is when you don’t intend to and the other person doesn’t intend to.
But co-incidentally, you happen to stay in same space.
When you realize you did not mean it.
Just confess. and move ahead.
Leave no regrets in the heart.
If you feel you weren’t guilty, then have pride in saying it.

And sometimes if you realize you didn’t do anything, and the other person did it by mistake.
Be graceful enough to let off it, with a smile.

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If the person doesnt understand your genius or you dont understand his genius,you hit a superiority complex.
Every statement is then made to state who’s the best.

You should let the question die in the mind.
Simply say.. Oh you are the best.. and Also Say Oh i am also the best.
Appreciate if you think the person possess genius qualities.
Appreciate also the fact, if you think the person cannot comprehend your qualities.

Don’t make efforts to prove yourself.
Don’t even ask for justification to massage your ego.

Everyone is indeed special in their own special way.
First you realise it and give him time to realise it.

Till then stop reacting and start acting.
Criticize if you find the actions wrong and appreciate the good.
Let the Mind be free and natural.
Let it be a free soul again, to talk and to stare.

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If ever anyone ever misunderstands you.
Don’t get shaken by their actions and behavior.
You so get irritated.
Instead question the actions in a space of trust.
Leave no questions in the mind for a person.
That allows you to be natural wherever you are.

Value people more than their mistakes.
For deep down, every person is greater than the mistakes ever made!
Give the person a chance to not to do another mistake and make sure you don’t allow him any room for mistakes.

Take responsibility of your happiness and your closed ones.
JaiGurudeva!

Love and Regards,
Swapnil

Relationships Trust and Space !

JaiGurudev dear Ones,
So here are two classic situations that i came across.

Trust

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Situation 1 :

Look there is a friend with whom I have right now a lot of misunderstanding.
And now he’s not ready to talk about it.
Like he keeps saying- forget it, chodd na, don’t delve into the past.. etc etc.. every time I try talking about it.
So its really pissing me off, because I want to know, what’s wrong, so that I can set things right, but he just wants to start afresh and not talk about it.
<< I dun knw wt he is >>
Before all this shit happened,both of us knew, that we like each other, as more than just friends.
But I don’t know, what it is like now.
Because he doesn’t even, want to talk about it.
And keeps saying chill no. Chodd na etc etc..
We weren’t dating.
Not my boyfriend.

A very good friend,but we just knew, that we liked each other as more than just friends.
Like, I can never say no to him or shout at him, even if I don’t like what’s happening.

So there was a time when the way he was behaving was bothering me too much.
So instead of shouting or saying anything.
I was a little sarcastic.
So probably that pissed him off.
But how much could I just keep putting up with it?
And then with all this,he apparently, told a mutual friend, that he couldn’t listen to more.
But he was just not bothered about him hurting me.
Or atleast that’s what I think..
So I don’t know, I am jus pissed.
He just started behaving weirdly without a reason.
And I’m stressing too much about it.
So much that it’s affecting my health.
I just want the friend, I had back like we were..

Help me out

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Ans :

A greater degree of relations heal with letting down your ego and forgiving each other.

Here’s an apology and truthful answer i could give to this question ..

Here’s what might work out if said to him..

“
Hey dear, i know i have been little sarcastic to you..
i am really sorry about it..
i just feel so bad and so distant even besides u.
Will you forgive me please.
Give me a chance to prove that i am worth being a best friend.
It feels so bad to wake up on a morning and find you have no one to take care and express your affection and love!
i miss ya man!
I miss the good old times we had.
Look, if there is anything wrong i did. and i know i did. I know i can’t change what you felt then.
Maybe never.
i just want to know, what should i have done..
i know i reacted. i want you to to help me out,to let me know ..
So that i don’t hurt somebody like u again
Will you help me out knowing this

It’s been killing me with curiosity, since so many days after i woke up after that reaction.
i just felt so worse, that how could i behave like that to a best friend of mine..
I was just not myself.
I just want you to understand, that maybe i was way too wrong, but will you let me back the same way, as we were before!
I just want another chance to prove myself
one last thing is, its not the chill thing that kills me ..
its the thing that, after all this.. i am not even worth a reason.. that kills me
i want to be a better person, please let me know the truth
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Here is what Gurudev says :

Q: If someone, whom you know loves and cares for you, doesn’t show it to you anymore, how do you still believe that they do and not get angry with them?

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: Give them some time, let them take a break and recharge them self to show you their care back again.

People do need a little bit of recharging again and again.
You have drawn all that love and attention from them and it needs a little more time to get recharged.

Just know they are recharging their batteries.

If you demand from someone to show you their love, it is not going to work. On the contrary, it will be counterproductive.

So never demand and never question, ‘Why don’t you love me?’ Don’t say that.
In fact, you should say the other way around, ‘Why do you love me so much? I don’t deserve it.

Why do you love me so much? You love me too much, I can’t take it anymore.’

Tell them this and you will see everything changes.

You know, it is such a burden for someone to prove their love for you.
Suppose someone tells you the same thing, ‘I don’t think you love me, come on show me.’
Then you will think, ‘Oh my God, how should I prove that I really love him.’

It is such a burden and nobody wants to carry such a burden on their head all the time.
Everyday you come home and prove that you really love your spouse at home.

No! Take it for granted and move on. Don’t try to make someone accountable to prove their love for you.

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Situation 2 :

I have a friend and am talking to that person because..he started drinking after shifting  to a new place..And he is not ready to quit smoking at any cost..
And i told him to do YES!+, so he spoke utter rubbish about AOL & my teacher..so i told him that i will talk to him when he quits smoking.
There is a cold war going on between us.
How do i handle this and get back?

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Ans :

First you stop rejecting and chill out yourself..
Just accept this fact that he drinks n smokes..
Right now as a responsible person, just meet him once over a cup of coffee and with lots of love tell him that i don’t hate you..
just that whatever you are doing.. i am fearing it will make you feel miserable in future.. i don’t want to lose a friend like you..
If you feel, its difficult to give up, then i assure you, the techniques in the course i am telling, surely does help

Look i feel so miserable seeing you go away, in smoking and drinking addictions.. tujhe kya problem hai.. ki tu drink aur smoke karta hai.. normal life is exciting too!
And i am telling, i have seen people, who used to drink heavily n smoke, that have found way out of this

I know you are a hardworking person
And deep down i know, you care for others too.
I respect you and right now i just feel there are better alternatives to feel the high like Kriya

A very sincere request to you, to give up all this.
i am with you, if you want to give up.
Even if no one supports, i am there besides you..
will you just give it up..
If its difficult to give up at once, then give up for one week.. then practise next week.
Before that, come with me for next YES!+.
I am sure, you love fun.
YES!+ is all about, giving up the bad and becoming best.
I can’t promise you’ll be the best immediately, but you’ll surely get, what you need

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May you all be happy and peaceful!
Love and Light!
JaiGurudeva!
Swapnil

PS : Hatred is just a doubt which u don’t dare to introspect and re-live it again and again..
Deep down you are just love.
Question your doubt, hatred and negativity, again and again.
This way instead of re-living; u relieve yourself of  all this negativity

A Refreshing Morning with Rohit Bhaiya!

Rohit Bhaiya

Rohit Bhaiya is leaving to Turkey now to organize for G’s visit )
here’s an excerpt from of what happened in session with Rohit Bhaiya at Bandra last morning!

This person is so amazingly exceptional!

Its difficult to capture the essence of what he says at times!

Made some effort to capture some

So here it goes!!
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So one guy had problem with his to-be-bhabhi as he felt, she was the reason, that his bro, didn’t interact with parents n himself
And so he goes n talks to his bhai.. that pls do talk and interact with us all and not just with ur gf!
So the person keeps feeling the girl separated the relations!

Bhaiya says.. who are you, to say, to ur younger brother, that he should have good relations with parents! stop being mothers postman.
He is a big man and i hope knows how to deal and give time!
Understand and have trust!
Common he has had gf just now.Let him enjoy bit and give him some time & space! as a person he knows what to do!
Further if you do have problems with his Gf.. without knowing her.. dont make biased statements.. Get to know her.
Dont fight on the invisible!
Relax and be supportive enough )
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Somebody asked : how to deal parents! Its like, i do my things but when i tell them of going for AOL they kinda are so unsupportive!
I mean i did give them ideas that how would i move ahead in my life and my vision and instead of giving hope, they discourage me! They keep saying mere se nai hoga n all and whats the point doing and all. I atleast expect some encouragement from them.
Arey my dear.. jisne poori zindagi..do waqt ki roti milne ke liye bitayi.who dont do anything to feel inspired.
unse kya inspiration ki apeksha rakhte ho.
Parents: they dont practise & feel what you do.
Toh don’t expect them, to give affirmative and sensitive replies!
they might appear rude & harsh!
They just want you to listen to them..
Most of the time they just want you to listen!
So if you are firm about not acting to what they say and feel you could do much better then dont fight or defend them and get irritated.
Just sit and listen with a patient mind.
And offer your best!
most importantly,

Get them to do course and let them also feel the bliss! then you can talk On one level!
Till then its difficult to explain them d high of 3S’s Sadhana Seva Satsang.

What do you do, to feel nice in day, to feel refreshed? Nothing much consciously right. Start doing.
Recognize & with wisdom manifest!
Why do you do sadhana?
Because it gives you rest, peace of mind, for those few moments you feel good, you feel doing sadhana will help you achieve it all.
But a time comes when with deep rest, you enjoy your sadhana, where not only you experience rest, but good too and till that time keep doing!
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Ohkay sometimes its difficult to act on negativity as you dont know what to do, whats happening and how to get out of it soon!

All these things happen when you lack Sadhana, when you don’t live knowledge or refresh revise your knowledge.
One thing is Do your kriya.. that helps.
Second, those who possess such energy, like volunteer teacher.. talk to them.
Best is: Go for advance course.. Even the lowest of low prana can feel the high and come out of lowness.
and regularly Do talk, share and feel free with teachers!
Teachers can guide , help you by giving any practical tips they applied

JaiGurudev!

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An Evening with Rishiji..

Rishi Nityapragyaji

Part of the knowledge session by Rishi Nityapragyaji on 25th April 2012 at SSRVM Mulund West.
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Atom has nucleus and electron cloud and in between them was said to be void.. but when scientist tapped that space they discovered it as consciousness..
Energy is in each atom..
Like that Bliss or that eternal state of happiness is your nature..
Tumhara swabhav hai sachhitanand aur jo dikhai deta hai aur jo tumhare harkate hoti hai.. wo prabhav se hai..

dekho tumhari body aur breath chod ke jayegi, par mind,intellect,ego saath rahega..toh uski baat karte hai..

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Q : I have ego problems. How do i handle it?
A : First learn to identify what type of ego it is and then make effort to move out of it.
For example, you dont talk much and stay aloof.. that is one ego..
You like to boss around.. create superiority complex, thats ego..
Okay now since you have known, what type of ego is in you..
Ask close people around you, to remind you each time, you fall in that behaviour.. you can forget, but people around you, are aware all the time. So taking help of people you come out of ego..

Q : When somebody gets egoistic i get affected. How do i handle that?
A : Sometimes you feel shaken because of somebody’s ego.Realise and become alert then.Are you shaken by their ego or is your ego awakened again.The secret to move out of it is..realise it again and again.

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Sometimes you forgive a person and have moved out of it.But somewhere you feel through the persons reactions, that the person hasnt still accepted from his side and knowing this you become unhappy.
Drop that unhappiness too.
They will take their own sweet time to accept you..
And the funny part is.. The moment you accept the inacceptance and behave normal, feeling normal.That moment onwards,the person also seems to slowly give up his/her inacceptance.

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What do you mean love me,you mean, act such that, i feel the love..

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Doesnt it happen that your closed ones dont listen.It is because they see you from the experiences.They dont feel the way u do.They hear the words and actions and react.Let them understand u
Accept it, they dont accept and then move ahead..
As u notice others inacceptance also notice urs.
Swadhyaya is essential..
To see how others fare and how u have fared..
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Satchiddanand ko paate paate anand bhul jate hai..
Job mai atak jate hai.. Relationship mai atak jate hai..
Toh kya wo sab nai paana..
Paana hai, lekin ek jaan lo, paise kamaane ke liye job karo.. Khushi paane ke liye nai.. Khushi tumhe sirf aur sirf, bheetar se milegi..
Jab lobh uthega toh vastuo ke liye prem jagega..
Jab moh uthega toh vyakti ke liye prem jagega..
Aur fir thode der baad wo chala jayega..
Tumne bohot vyakti vastuyein haasil ki hai..
Jaan lo.. Unse khushi nai milegi..
Tumne Kabhi sat ke liye khushi kurbaan ki hai.. toh kabhi chit ke liye..
Par anand to sirf tabhi paaya jab sadhana seva satsang ki.
Is marg par pehle kathinai hai par lambe samay ke liye khushi..

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Job karo, kuch karo; par jaano.. kya aur kyu kar rahe ho..
Samaaj ka dhaacha hai isliye mat karo..dekho, samjho aur apnao..
Khushi toh bheetar hi milegi.. Khush hokar karo..
dekho agar tum ek andheri room mai ho aur light switch ko dhundte dhundte hath mai rassi lagti hai aur turant samjho tumhe switch mil jaye.. aur light lagane par dikh jaye ki tum rassi nai saap pakad rahe the..
toh jhat se usko chod doge na..
Usme koi kisike baatane ki jarurat nai thi!
Bas pata that ki wo cheez ko pakadna achha nai tha tumhare liye!
Isi tarah jeevan mai jaise jaise tumhe pata chalta ki kaunsi cheez tumhare liye kitni acchi hai aur kitni buri.. waise waise tum usko chodte jaate ho. aur achhi cheezo ko apnate ho..

Tum kidhar atke ho jaise hi tumhe iska aabhas ya samajh aati hai.. Toh turant wo chut jata hai..
Toh wo light ya knowledge ka prakash jab ayega tab uss bandhan se chutkara milega..
Jitne jaldi chodoge aur khali honge..utna jyada tumhara dimakh kaam karne ke liye available rahega..
Nai toh wo preoccuppied rahega in that bondage..
Keval uska alertness aane se usse chut sakte ho..

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Toh desires ka kya kare.. Wo toh aate toh kaise avoid kare.. Dekho wo toh ayenge par kin desire ko bhaav dena ye tumhare haath mai hai..
Desires to aayenge, par tum buddhi se unhi desires ko rakho jo tumhare liye upyogi hai..
Jaise ki..

Tum premmayi hone ki desire rakho.. i will be loving to all.
Log khush rahe na rahe. You resolve and desire to be happy..
then if somebody behaves happily, you consider it as bonus..
You resolve to maintain ur happiness.
this way its okay if someone dont behave in accordance with u.

Gurumay hone ka desire rakho.. Let me Feel the Guru’s presence all the time..
Ki mujhme koi ichha nai aaye..ye ichha.. That no desires come up in me..

Mujhe mukti mile ye ichha.. That my soul is liberated..
Desire of the highest..
Ye desire kabhi chodna nai..
Badi desires rakhoge, toh choti desires se mann attract hona bandh ho jayega..

Question & Answer – 2

“Never wrestle with pigs. You both get dirty and the pig likes it.” – George Bernard Shaw.

Some people who are not in senses, may argue, blame things, not relevant to you! Be aware and know the ignorance.
Its the nature of the ignorant to be insensible!
But it shakes you and rattles you completely.
They lose nothing and you – everything. Realize the ignorance and don’t get into it.

A classic example is : somebody making you angry & feeling happy about it

Q : But my mind always says that, the other person, may also have a opinion of his own, which maybe right,so how and when can we say that he is behaving ignorant?

A: You apply the thought to the actions of the person, not the person itself
A constant attention, all the time, has to be – keeping your mind sane & happy. Don’t reel further, with the arguing mind. If a person, wants to make some change possible, and make u feel guilty and sinful- take it that way. But someone would just want to blabber without any pre-experience in life! You understand, what comes from maturity and immaturity.
Make the distinction and if you feel, you are wrong – take it that way.
If you feel, you are genuinely right-smile at the ignorance, pray for knowledge to dawn & move ahead

Love & Light!
JaiGurudeva!
Swapnil
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Question & Answer – 1

Q : How to memorize many things, many words,paragraphs?
A: So the question is how do I concentrate and recall!

Let’s have a look:

Mind is so fickle, that it memorizes all negative things, and forgets things that are positive and good, mind forgets or takes it for granted. Bring that awareness to feel grateful, for the things you receive!

Okay let’s have another look at it,
what’s going on in your mind,
why isn’t your mind grasping what you are reading?

Answer is simple! Its busy wandering in past or future!

Meditation helps to come back to present! This helps a great deal in concentration..
When you are totally here in this moment, your mind can understand what its doing and can store it!

Oh yes, to improve your concentration more than this, do resort to Ayurveda for medicines!

Medication and meditation both need to work..
Its like a rusted iron, it needs oil to loosen up and needs screw driver, to remove it completely!

Medication is like oil, it loosens you up!
Meditation is like the simplest precaution..

Meditating is training your mind to be in present!

You cannot meditate in past!
You have to be here in this moment, to dive in meditation!
Discipline your mind to meditate!
Listen to Guided meditation by Guruji, if you cannot just sit still!

Laziness : is another thing that stops you!
If you really want to learn, you need to shed off the laziness and take that extra effort in learning!

Skill : learn with skill!
You should know what you are learning! That makes it easier to memorize

Lastly Let go off and know that you grasp slowly and train your mind again and again to be a little better!

To test if it works – Take that little impossible task – risk and see if it has become possible!
To measure your progress, test yourself!
Do something which is ethical and which promises you to be better in whatever you want to

Don’t think all of a sudden, you can grasp it all, give little room to yourself and whatever you can, acknowledge it and have a goal to become better than that!

Good luck to all!
Guru Bless you!
Love and Prayers,
JaiGurudev,
Swapnil
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Come, let’s Be Happy!

My friend asked me : How to ignore depression?
Here goes the answer :
You can never ignore depression!
Turning a deaf ear, won’t solve it..
Learning to come out of it, is a solution.
Mind is so fickle, that, it easily gets affected by so many things.
Understanding this, a wise thing to do is to know that, what keeps mind fresh and give it that! Keep your mind busy in good things and actions and you’ll never feel depressed!
If ever, you might have the feeling, of not achieved; but depression then, not at all!

How do you tackle depression?
Since, its going to come again and again..
Learn to get out of it fast!
The moment you realise it, you are out of it!
The very next moment, you start thinking of doing something productive!

Depression happens, when you start thinking; what about me, what will happen, how do I make it happen? Etc.. All sorts of questions, flowing everywhere, but leading to no end in answer!

Train your mind to be happy!
A good practice, is to know, mind tends to be little risky and habitually gets depressed and on a precautionary basis, keep doing pranayama, chant, sing bhajans in satsang, do yoga, meditate! Attend the beautiful pujas conducted by Swamis and Rishis!
Be in the presence of Guruji!

Mantras have a healing effect! They calm you and when you are calm, you are clear in your thoughts and you can take decisions for the good and the best!

Have a good diet! Avoid junk food, eat healthy. Right kind of food, supports good thought process and give your body, mind and soul, more time to work!

Avoid the company of the one’s who smoke, drink, constantly bad-mouth ( say bad things about people), who constantly talk of sex and money! Very intelligently, just listen and don’t apply, to what these people say. If you can, avoid the company of these people!
If not, then intelligently, duck the chance to meet them or joining in conversation!

Read knowledge from the Master!
So many books, talk on so many facets of mind,body and soul! Understand the very nature of mind and train it with love!

Having the right kind of company, also puts you in-charge of life! You can, then take control and move it, to your own beauty! Good company, guides you to excel and helps you to achieve your goal! They know, what makes you happier!

Lastly, when out of depression; set priorities in life; ask yourself -how I can harness myself hundred? Identify your energy, choose your work and set life goals according to that!

At the end of all you seek happiness only, so even though life seems rough, enjoy and reach yourself to perfection!

Don’t forget to enjoy this nature

With a smile, every time you face depression, move out it!

Till you cannot leave a second without happiness, practice to come out it!

Depression is surely a habitual tendency

Make sure, now therefore; you make happiness as your habit!

And if you still cannot practise happiness, practise sacrifice! Devote your life to others, till it becomes yours!

Love life, live life, unleash life!
Thank your life, with each incoming breath and practice faith and surrender with every outgoing breath!

You need to surrender, every moment again and again

Become free and alive!

Loads of love and blessings,
JaiGurudeva!
Swapnil
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