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Selecting the right clothes!

Selecting the right clothes!

We don’t buy the clothes, the moment we see it, right?..We look it left right, we go to trial room and look front and back, we look if it’s not too revealing..We do a hundred tests and once you and the cloth has made a match, both give a nod and you buy it in..Do you see how you romance this process of matching your cloth before buying..Get used to that in relationship too!

Sometimes we get attracted by the family, or looks or the habits and then we stop looking at everything else.. we stop the romanticism like the cloth and just pick up the person.

Maybe one should stick to choosing person or being in relationship like the cloth, as you have to be together for the rest of times..

So even though the person is attractive or the family is.. you have to live with the person and it’s mind. So make sure these two things go with you. They are willing to be with you. Looks are great, but in long-term they don’t matter. Willingness to be together matter.

Lost and Found?

Lost&Found

So recently my friend lost a laptop in an auto rickshaw and did all possible to make sure it can be traced and returned back; which means contacted police and informed locals.While the search is still on, it rings a bell to me and wish to share what can one do to face such an incident.

I don’t think all of those who find the lost items want to keep it with them. But most of them find it hard to trace it back. Imagine if you found a laptop as you boarded the rickshaw what would you do? You have to go to a meeting and you find it lying in the seat? Will you take efforts to trace it back and how will you trace it back? If the laptop is password protected and you are not that computer geek, you are going to have a hard time figuring out where to begin to trace the owner.

You see, not all might want to hoard it. But on the contrary, may find it difficult to return it to its rightful owner.

I lost a phone. I almost lost my glares and my friend’s wallet. I also returned a card holder with some money back to the owner. So here is my take on what I did and what you can do!

1. You can put an identification mark with contact details on possible items.

Make a custom sized sticker and paste it on back of your laptop, charger, power banks or other similar carried electronic item. This sticker can contain details such as “This item belongs to ”

In 2016, I visited the World Culture festival and for that period, I made such sticker and stuck it all across my electronic accessories. Even my bags. It may look laughable. But I was at peace. I knew I gave my best and if at all i happened to forget due to any reason, at least i am making it easier for people to return it back or least communicate with me.

To give an example, since I made an identification mark for my glares box. I got a call almost minutes later i forgot it a pharmacy store when he noticed i had put a phone number on it. I instantly went and claimed my glares.

2. You could also laminate a custom size card with your contact details and keep it in your handbag’s front and back pocket or wallet or laptop bag.

3. Before you move out local transport. Say you get up from your seat, look back and see if anything dropped by mistake. Say the soap from your shopping bag or your spectacle box or maybe your wallet or phone. Ensure and move out of seat or vehicle.

I also almost lost a wallet. As we moved out the seat, suddenly i realized my friends wallet is still lying in the rickshaw seat. I grabbed it instantly. The rickshaw owner almost panicked thinking I am stealing but I ensured it was ours. So a simple check may help.

4. Also try to keep things in one bag than multiple bags. You can buy one big bag. Back pack would also work in case you are travelling in Mumbai locals, so you can move clutter free. And you can have more attention and you wouldn’t most probably leave out things anywhere.

5. Update your information card. In my case, i had hard time figuring out contact details for the card holder i found. I checked the card for information to contact person and found that the contact number was now obsolete. This made me doubt whether the home address might be accurate. I had to contact the phone operator finally to get the updated number and it took me nearly 3 hours to hand it back to the person.

6. I also lost a phone but I never knew how to reclaim it back. It costed 1800 rupees then but since the cost was not much i found it difficult to do the entire process also because I was not okay going to police station and initiate the enquiry.

Again, imagine you got a mobile phone in a rickshaw. What will you do? For sure, it will ring but will you pick up each call? A call from a known number is much easier to pick up. So if you name your dad as dad, sister as sister, mom as mom or even Boss; it is easier for the person to pick up. So save numbers right. A locked phone is difficult to access and figure out which are your family contacts. In such a case, the only way to know is to attend the calls and hope they are the right contact to communicate to the person.

You could also update the “owner’s info” on your lock screen which can display “in case of emergency contact ”

So to conclude, most people might think that people steal it. But I think that’s not entirely true. There are a majority who are clueless since there is no dedicated set of instructions to return the item to its owner. There seems no dedicated department to report and even if you do it, it will take some time and efforts to track down the owner. So the above is not a guide, this is just a set of things i think will work. Please share how will you make it easier to return a lost item to its owner. What are your tips?

Do you have any experience? What worked and how?

 

So read this book – “Guru Charitra”

Writing few words on reading the English translation of this book. The Marathi version is very much in detail and is read with a particular discipline. I followed the “Parayan” reading rules for reading the book. Which meant i read chapters in bunch as prescribed for best uninterrupted experience to get the expected essence from the book. 
Understanding this needs one to have faith in the stories that have happened in real. Reading books like this helps you to understand why is the particular person or diety worshipped. Many might reject the devotion or love by ignoring to read. But i feel reading one gets a Glimpse of what is that which was revered so much and helps you to interact with community following it with so much reverence. One must read with an open mind. Faithful people will find solace in the book. The explanation of misery through cause and effect or Karma spanning not just this lifetime but also from past and subsequent relieving experiences might act as solace to many. 
I found this book amazing and it talks in detail through life stories of Gurudev Sri Narasimha Saraswati and Gurudev Sripad Shri Vallabha about the many questions that come across people. 
Right from Karma Kanda to Gyana to Bhakti to letting know everything has some reason and that pure love, praytna, prayaschitta, devotion can let you cross any dungeon or mountain that traps you into viels of misery.
It also helps us give perspective into aachar / code of conduct that can benefit and give many peace of mind. 
It goes to explain through many examples that all that misery never stays for long and that Divine is every listening. It also tries to make us understand many of life miseries are a direct result of our own action and sincere prayer and vow and readiness for repentance is the best remedy.
An open disclaimer is also given which talks that certain things were right according to the time period of the stories and users should read it with discretion.
Overall reading it definitely acts and gives effect as a soothing balm to the troubled/ inquisitive / doubtful mind. I recommend this to be read by all. 

O what a pity!

This poem is so like the Almighty speaking of how the human mind is and trying to make him aware of where it’s heading to. Lovingly it is trying to convince and give him a solution.  

“O what a pity”


O what a pity!
The mind is fixated on the fleeting,

And aiming for the infinite.

Why so it is troubled much

Living in the finite? 
O what a pity!

The mind is not in the moment,

Stuck in the past,

Person, judgement, object, event and so many reasons.

Stuck in the material and 

craving for comfort

How shall I tell what is the real comfort?
Is it in the bed,

Or the television, 

Or the music, 

Or the season? 

True comfort ain’t in a single thing

O What a pity!
How do i describe 

Where I am? How do i look?

Where can I be found?

I am not 

in the idols,

In the altar,

In the photos you swear.

I am in the heart of the One,

That eternally say the prayer.
I am the kindness,

I am the justice,

I am the love 

That pours in infinite ways,

I am the breeze,

I am the light,

I am the water that quenches your thirst. 
I am where you won’t see me.

I am everywhere.

Open your eyes and witness me.

Wake up from the pity 

And walk with dignity. 
Don’t beg for little,

Ask for more,

Not by greed 

But humility and gratitude galore. 

Ask for the need,

and to serve the needy.

Ask for the good 

and to give back it in heaps and bounty. 

Ask for the wealth 

and to charity.

Ask for everything

and a mind in sanity. 
O what a pity 

Man asks for little,

It craves for the fleeting

And complains me befitting. 

Do not O mortal, 

Think I shall grant only what you seek.

Look beyond and Divine is within your reach. 
O what a pity!

It fails to see,

actions has equal reaction.

your inaction has equal reaction. 

Do not worry still o mortal.

Do not grieve.

Pray and you shall receive ! 

O child of God

Here is a recently composed poem that talks about God being there for us all the time. 


Oh Child of God,

Keep me not in the idol,

Keep me in the heart. 

Keep me there,

And watch the faith intact. 
If words of man,

Makes you low,

Chants of mine, 

Shall bring you high. 

Take the power, 

And walk the moment.

For dwelling there,

Would only cause suffering. 
What do you fear,

Of loss of loved one,

Of no money there,

Of no respect,

Of no fame?
What is your fear,

That rocks your heart,

That makes you sad? 
Fear not if you lose everything,

For i shall come, in ways unknown.

Not in the altar,

Not in the idol,

And make you witness,

The faith wave tidal. 

So much shall you get,

One day shall you weep,

That I lost something,

To gain everything! 

Thank you Sir!

​This is a story i want to share today and a express thank you to my teacher. 

This is about 10th standard, i had enrolled in tuition classes in my vicinity. The previous year I was in the same tuition class. We had one English teacher, Deshmukh Sir. He was short, bald and had a strong persona. His voice had a touch of passion for the subject. So he taught us the school syllabus. 
One day during my 9th standard classes, he asked us to write an essay. We all wrote it. Around next day, he came and praised me in front of the class. He loved what I wrote. I was overwhelmed. Never before I was praised like that. I mean teachers do evaluate, but I don’t think ever, someone stood up and said this was good or my efforts were appreciable. Not that I was a brilliant student but nevertheless you do expect teacher to value your efforts to catch up his level. I always feared his strong persona but liked and respected him as a person. 

Then in 10th standard, there were some more instances he was happy with me. 

And in the final prelims that my class conducted, i was told my Sir was very happy with how I had fared. 

Soon i gave my main 10th board exams. I scored a disappointing 55 of 100. 

I couldn’t face him eye to eye. He met me, he stared at me and showed me the notice board where the students class marks were displayed.. With a disappointing face, he questioned..Why? what happened? Why so less? 

It wasn’t that he was angry, but so deeply concerned as if he lost something. That he had failed to deliver. 

I couldn’t face it. I felt really bad i couldn’t live upto his teachings. 

Somewhere down, i promised myself to look up to him and answer him back.. 

And I took that vow!

As soon as my 11th exams finished, i got hold of the English textbook and studied it every single day for the 12th board exams. 

Not a day went where I did not pay attention in my vacations. 

Even in my college classes, i wrote things as teacher would say. I was so sincere to attend that there was a time, no one would turn up for classes and I would sit one on one with the English teacher. I was crazy with that. 

Soon prelims came and I scored a 80 off 100. I hadn’t scored exceptional marks but I did give my 101% . I was totally thankful to my teacher for this. This i dedicated to my teacher who did not just teach me the subject but told me it was his personal investment. That my result was also his win or loss. It is this value that I always treasure and cherish 🙂 

Thank you Sir for believing, valuing, appreciating and encouraging to do better and best 🙂

I know you are not here and in the heavens. I pray this thank you and my good wishes reach upto you there. 🙂

To the Mother-to-be!

Dear Mom-To-Be,

"Mother"

“Mother”

So this letter is to those mom’s-to-be from me, as i have seen through my eyes, being around a mother. Hope this letter resonates your thoughts and puts in lots of strength inside of you.

Well, Congratulations for the big promotion! From being a girl, to a lady to now being a mother. Motherhood awaits you. A journey so fulfilling and maybe gruel-some, taking you on a roller coaster ride. Over the next two years, it will be super special. It might take you on a roller coaster ride, but i assure you, it will bring out the best of you!

Isn’t it exciting, a whole new being is coming from inside of you. Wow, that feeling itself is so special. A whole new life awaits you. Someone is going to come, who is going to “teach” you more than you are going to! Someone who is going to define love for you in a completely different language, who will communicate through feeling and touch, till it utters the way we do! There might be moments which may be uncomfortable and tiring, something that will exhaust you to the core, but that is what defines commitment, priority and understanding.

The special one is going to experience the world where you have now become a master in so many fields. It is going to see the world through you. It is going to learn through you and it cannot be taught the way we teach. Not through logic. It will understand the language of care, compassion, innocence and understanding. I wish the very best to you, to do that. You are going to be super special to someone. Someone for whom the world will be YOU! Who is going to cling to you for care and support and impart you the strength to care it!

The clock may not be same for you when your special one comes, but i assure you, if you live by its clock, you will never feel bad about anything. For the time to come, priorities might change, sacrifices will seem obvious at times, but if you vow to live by the loved one as if it is a gift from God itself, then i assure you, each day will be special. Every moment will be a privilege to serve the One. Any day you feel down, you remember how special you are, to be blessed to be a mother.

To be granted a privilege to experience the infinite love from the special one. Your days and night will go on to live and think about that special one, but rest assured your love for all is the same. People may say you have changed, but deep down you are the same. It’s just a matter of time and priority that tells each one of us to act what is best for in the moment. And if time puts you in the position, put yourself, your child, family and Guru above all. If time lets you choose, you choose that which has empowered you.

From the time, your child steps into this world, your whole timetable might change. Maybe you will never be able to go out without it’s permission. It will not understand anything the way you perceive things, everything will be new to the child. For you the iPhone is different from Nokia because you know it’s value. But for the child, everything is same, it’s just a thing. So don’t scold it, because it doesn’t understand the difference, you should know what it doesn’t know and keep your “valuable” things beyond it’s reach. Child will also bring in a whole new set of issues to deal for you. From not wanting to stay in the clothes you want it to wear, to choosing the pee at odd times, to tiring you to run around it. Your priorities and awareness is going to change for your child. Don’t be surprised or feel guilty that you do not do the same things you did before the child came. People are going to point you out that! To that, just be aware and don’t take it too much in to your mind. It’s okay to prioritize and do what you feel appropriate to deal the situation.

Your shopping list is going to change a lot! It’s going to talk about baby, baby and more baby. For adults, a cold may not be so serious, but if anything happens to the baby, it might look like a war like situation for you. Go ahead. Deal with that like a Major General.

You will need a lot of support for yourself. It’s not that you are not complete. It’s that you need everything just happens for the best at all times.

Initially you might look a lot more aware of everything around the baby. But then, it may become monotonous, tiring and frustrating. Conveying to the child can become a task. It might cry incessantly or just go into a zone and will not tell you what happened. It may become a clue hunt for you. But once you observe the child, you learn how it is communicating to you. What it wants and what it doesn’t. It’s going to fall down a lot. Let the child fall and support the child at all times. Teach it in the way it wants it to be.

It will cry like hell and the moment next it will laugh and create a heavenly atmosphere. It is going to teach you a lot, to let go of emotions and live your life fully. Although you will teach it a lot many things, it is going to make you unlearn a whole set of things. All those trivial things it’s going to make it important for you.

As you are living and exploring motherhood and watching things unfold for the first time, stay close to your best buddies who have become mother, your mother, mother-in-law, whoever close to you who has taken care of a baby in it’s initial years. Communicate and be in touch with them, they are going to help you out to understand the changes that takes place inside of you and to your baby and how to deal with people around you. Talking helps a lot. Don’t sit down and cry and keep it to yourself, talk to them and solve one after another. That’s how motherhood can be better for you. If it’s your first time, please don’t get harsh on yourself. Know the imperfections and try to tackle it.

Trust this, you might neglect a whole new set of people because you won’t have time to think about them. Life’s going to get super busy. But that’s okay.

Love your body and be besides it as things might change after the baby. Give it the highest priority. The initial years are the time, you give maximum attention to yourself and the baby. Of course this can become a life-long habit 🙂

Being a mother was a choice made by you and your partner. Living it will be a journey. A journey which may not seem to be as exciting as those Snap chat, Instagram and Facebook photos. But it will be worth it. Be the best version of you to your child. I wish you all the best.

So, to the mother to be, for a special one, i wish the journey be very fulfilling for the years to come. I pray the next two years and the years ahead, fill you with much power, strength, support and love from each side. I pray for the best of you. If time will not allow you to express the love to the one’s you once cared deeply, don’t feel disheartened. Pour it to the one’s around you. It will reach to the people you want.

There is more more to say, but the words aren’t coming in now. Maybe they will come soon and will write more about it then 🙂

Till then, wish you Lots of baby hugs!

To the Mother-To-Be sending Lots of love 🙂

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