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Short Story
“The End”

The End!

The End!

“Twice bitten once shy”

The never give up attitude never left him.
For now, it seemed fun.

He felt like a pro.
Juggling around his heart and finding a new person to mend it!

It was much better than watching others.

There was a sense of satisfaction of having tried, than regretting of never doing it!

He smiled. He never won. But he won over his fears..
Once touted as the one who will never dare, to the one who never feared!

He smelled a sense of achievement.
He smelled the victory cry!

Some months before he had never thought what he could do..
It was beyond his imagination..

“But a gesture of love, can ignite a person, sometimes consuming him, to become that!”

Back as he saw, love was not the same as said..

It had its own highs and lows..

“Love is not for the one blinded in lust, Love is for the ones who enjoy the pace of it!”
“Love reveals itself. Love finds YOU! You don’t find your love..”

One find day, Love will find YOU!
It will embrace you so tight, that the whole universe will seem filled with it.

Love has it power. Misuse it  and you lose it.
Love opens up your heart. It lets you play with the heart.

“Love is being silly. Love is respecting. Love is commitment. Love is a beautiful feeling..”

Try to hold it and you will lose it..
You cannot maintain love, you can only let it BE!

Love can empower you enough to face the criticisms, it can fight it alone!

Love can give you a sense of ownership of the other person..Something that causes most break ups..
Too much of it, and you screw up the whole setup of love..

“Love it, but don’t love it enough to damage it by yourself..”

Here he was, seeing the power of love, and its downfall!

Staring at the sky he was amazed, it was full of stars.
He could feel that, When love was right there, he never sensed it, but now with her gone, he enjoyed the darkness.
There were those stars which she gave,”the snippets of love” 🙂
Something, he chose to treasure and thank her for..

The feeling of love had subsided.. He was quiet..

He felt no urge to make a move himself..He sat there, Busy joining the pieces of his heart..
Carefully, bringing them together.

“You don’t find people. They are meant to find you. For a reason, so much beyond your reason, but with a definite purpose.They might not exhibit any purpose, yet establish over time.”

This was one such instance.. Someone found him, but not for the reason he felt betrayed for..

Just a casual meet. Again. Over the world wide web..

The world wide web is funny.. It lets you showcase a part of you that you choose to show. It never shows the part, you always want to hide..
And yet we choose to believe that story.. Not, that we do not understand.. But there is a slight hope, what if? What if i can change it for the betterment of us both?

What if, this is what the other never thought of? That it can be better?

“Hope. Faith can make the worst of the crimes. Like taking a risk to do the same thing that led you to a mistake.”


She looked stunning than the previous one. He was bowled.
She was friendlier and cheesier in her talks..
He was keeping her at bay. He never landed on the harbor initially. Observing the steps. Was it okay to dock? Or he should continue to sail ahead?

He never wanted to. But Hope? Faith?
He was a never give up guy!
He went with a precaution to himself.. He wont enter the territory to get lost! He agreed to his sane side!

But then, he changed sides.
He broke his protocols and became comfortable with her talks..
He never took it as true, although she hinted her in a first few talks. She loved to toy around the guy’s emotions.. Yes. He was emotional with the scars in!

But he was determined. To just hang around and stick to the precautions! Not knowing, the scars were still fresh!
She lured him by her talks.. He got caught. Now here he was, completely in her custody!
She won him. He lost himself in her.

But this was something different.. He could not meet her. She stayed miles away.
Oh God. This was a long distance relationship. He knew fully. Yet he took the risk!

He loved her talks. He imagined her smile. The same as was in the photo she posted.
He fantasized being with her, sitting besides and talking the same way as on phone..

Those days, he did not have plan to call her at affordable rates.. He went beyond.. He found one to talk to her as long as he wanted..

“Love is Being Mad.. It can literally make you do things, you never imagined!”

Sometimes though it comes out as better!

Long distance relationship is risk oriented..

There is no presence. and presence does it all.
Words hardly live up to. They just guide to fantasies. But presence! Presence makes it a reality!

Presence is what keep the fire in the relationship..It keeps it lit.

With lack of presence to just lit that love is not easy..
He felt the pinch. She was though, as she mentioned casual. She hinted. He never listened to that..

He was now completely lost in fantasy through her words..

A month and a half, he spent like that. He called every time. She never took that initiative..

He was out on a vacation… He informed her.. She kept being casual..

“Friends define life. They treat you beyond what you are. A side you never discover, they will make you explore that. Friends do that!”

A gala time being away. His new love life was now a topic of hot discussion. They talked over and over and saw him smile at her mention..

Back from the vacation, he tried to contact her.

She was gone! No return calls, messages, not even ONLINE!

He became curious and persistent in asking. He was being genuine.

It seemed like a lost signal. He could not trace her beyond that number. She refused to be traced too.. Shying away being ONLINE too!

He had to practice respect. He had to give her space. He chose to be committed with a slight tinge of knowing she has left him!

But he refused to believe until it were her words.

His birthday came. She wished him. He became hopeful but not for too long.She chose to be away!

One day, she decided, she came for a chat, She blurted finally.. She was already in midst of a complication, her feelings, her desires!

She was in midst of something. She was not a committed person. She loved to toy around. Some of it, made things complicated for her..

He thought maybe she sensed i was genuine and did not wanted to let me in. Also they never met!

“To lend space in heart is not so easy!”

What if you choose to take it for granted?

“NO!” She blurted out, “I am NOT your girlfriend!!”

He was not shaken that much as he was the previous time..

He decided. There was nothing on this path much to explore..

He called it “THE END!”

He chose to not explore it in the way he was doing it. He knew there was much more to life than just wandering carelessly like that..

He chose to gracefully part ways with the path..

Although many chances came,time and again, but he choose to not follow that path again.. Until as they say.



PS : You can read the previous two short stories here :
“The Wanderer”

Dealing People & Mistakes!

So a dear friend of mine asked this genuine question!

How do u deal with anger and frustration when U relied on a certain someone and that certain someone screws it up for U knowing that it is of utmost importance to U?

This is what i could answer..

Communication is one factor that can be practised to get ur things done. Be clear in expressing and establishing the importance of getting ur work done on time. Lets take an example. If u want a Haar for G on Yesplus.. one would usually say pls bring haar. U should instead specify what size haar what kind of more things u want eg flowers and all.. and what time the person should reach the venue. All these things u know but u dont convey to the person u entrust the job to. So establishing a strong communication with the person and correctly making him realise the importance of ur work.

Second is taking committment from the person that the work be completed in certain period of time 🙂 Be considerate and yet strict. Third is once given some task. Do follow up and find out giving them space of trust if they are facing any problems and if yes pls help them out to solve it.

One thing is dont move on assumptions. If still the person did something wrong then Find out exactly why!? And if its genuine enough tell the person how u could have better dealt the problem being unbiased. And make them realise how much painful it is to face when something like this happens. And if surpassing all if they are still hard skinned well u use ur own techniques skillfully to get their brains right on track

Much Love & Regards,
Swapnil 🙂

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Relationships Trust and Space !

JaiGurudev dear Ones,
So here are two classic situations that i came across.



Situation 1 :

Look there is a friend with whom I have right now a lot of misunderstanding.
And now he’s not ready to talk about it.
Like he keeps saying- forget it, chodd na, don’t delve into the past.. etc etc.. every time I try talking about it.
So its really pissing me off, because I want to know, what’s wrong, so that I can set things right, but he just wants to start afresh and not talk about it.
<< I dun knw wt he is >>
Before all this shit happened,both of us knew, that we like each other, as more than just friends.
But I don’t know, what it is like now.
Because he doesn’t even, want to talk about it.
And keeps saying chill no. Chodd na etc etc..
We weren’t dating.
Not my boyfriend.

A very good friend,but we just knew, that we liked each other as more than just friends.
Like, I can never say no to him or shout at him, even if I don’t like what’s happening.

So there was a time when the way he was behaving was bothering me too much.
So instead of shouting or saying anything.
I was a little sarcastic.
So probably that pissed him off.
But how much could I just keep putting up with it?
And then with all this,he apparently, told a mutual friend, that he couldn’t listen to more.
But he was just not bothered about him hurting me.
Or atleast that’s what I think..
So I don’t know, I am jus pissed.
He just started behaving weirdly without a reason.
And I’m stressing too much about it.
So much that it’s affecting my health.
I just want the friend, I had back like we were..

Help me out 🙂

Ans :

A greater degree of relations heal with letting down your ego and forgiving each other.

Here’s an apology and truthful answer i could give to this question ..

Here’s what might work out if said to him..

Hey dear, i know i have been little sarcastic to you..
i am really sorry about it..
i just feel so bad and so distant even besides u.
Will you forgive me please.
Give me a chance to prove that i am worth being a best friend.
It feels so bad to wake up on a morning and find you have no one to take care and express your affection and love!
i miss ya man!
I miss the good old times we had.
Look, if there is anything wrong i did. and i know i did. I know i can’t change what you felt then.
Maybe never.
i just want to know, what should i have done..
i know i reacted. i want you to to help me out,to let me know ..
So that i don’t hurt somebody like u again 🙂
Will you help me out knowing this 🙂

It’s been killing me with curiosity, since so many days after i woke up after that reaction.
i just felt so worse, that how could i behave like that to a best friend of mine..
I was just not myself.
I just want you to understand, that maybe i was way too wrong, but will you let me back the same way, as we were before!
I just want another chance to prove myself 🙂
one last thing is, its not the chill thing that kills me ..
its the thing that, after all this.. i am not even worth a reason.. that kills me 🙂
i want to be a better person, please let me know the truth 🙂

Here is what Gurudev says :

Q: If someone, whom you know loves and cares for you, doesn’t show it to you anymore, how do you still believe that they do and not get angry with them?

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: Give them some time, let them take a break and recharge them self to show you their care back again.

People do need a little bit of recharging again and again.
You have drawn all that love and attention from them and it needs a little more time to get recharged.

Just know they are recharging their batteries.

If you demand from someone to show you their love, it is not going to work. On the contrary, it will be counterproductive.

So never demand and never question, ‘Why don’t you love me?’ Don’t say that.
In fact, you should say the other way around, ‘Why do you love me so much? I don’t deserve it.

Why do you love me so much? You love me too much, I can’t take it anymore.’

Tell them this and you will see everything changes.

You know, it is such a burden for someone to prove their love for you.
Suppose someone tells you the same thing, ‘I don’t think you love me, come on show me.’
Then you will think, ‘Oh my God, how should I prove that I really love him.’

It is such a burden and nobody wants to carry such a burden on their head all the time.
Everyday you come home and prove that you really love your spouse at home.

No! Take it for granted and move on. Don’t try to make someone accountable to prove their love for you.


Situation 2 :

I have a friend and am talking to that person because..he started drinking after shifting  to a new place..And he is not ready to quit smoking at any cost..
And i told him to do YES!+, so he spoke utter rubbish about AOL & my i told him that i will talk to him when he quits smoking.
There is a cold war going on between us.
How do i handle this and get back?

Ans :

First you stop rejecting and chill out yourself..
Just accept this fact that he drinks n smokes..
Right now as a responsible person, just meet him once over a cup of coffee and with lots of love tell him that i don’t hate you..
just that whatever you are doing.. i am fearing it will make you feel miserable in future.. i don’t want to lose a friend like you..
If you feel, its difficult to give up, then i assure you, the techniques in the course i am telling, surely does help 🙂

Look i feel so miserable seeing you go away, in smoking and drinking addictions.. tujhe kya problem hai.. ki tu drink aur smoke karta hai.. normal life is exciting too!
And i am telling, i have seen people, who used to drink heavily n smoke, that have found way out of this 🙂

I know you are a hardworking person 🙂
And deep down i know, you care for others too.
I respect you and right now i just feel there are better alternatives to feel the high like Kriya 🙂

A very sincere request to you, to give up all this.
i am with you, if you want to give up.
Even if no one supports, i am there besides you..
will you just give it up..
If its difficult to give up at once, then give up for one week.. then practise next week.
Before that, come with me for next YES!+.
I am sure, you love fun.
YES!+ is all about, giving up the bad and becoming best.
I can’t promise you’ll be the best immediately, but you’ll surely get, what you need 🙂


May you all be happy and peaceful!
Love and Light!
Swapnil 🙂

PS : Hatred is just a doubt which u don’t dare to introspect and re-live it again and again..
Deep down you are just love.
Question your doubt, hatred and negativity, again and again.
This way instead of re-living; u relieve yourself of  all this negativity 🙂

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