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Relationships Trust and Space !

JaiGurudev dear Ones,
So here are two classic situations that i came across.

Trust

Trust

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Situation 1 :

Look there is a friend with whom I have right now a lot of misunderstanding.
And now he’s not ready to talk about it.
Like he keeps saying- forget it, chodd na, don’t delve into the past.. etc etc.. every time I try talking about it.
So its really pissing me off, because I want to know, what’s wrong, so that I can set things right, but he just wants to start afresh and not talk about it.
<< I dun knw wt he is >>
Before all this shit happened,both of us knew, that we like each other, as more than just friends.
But I don’t know, what it is like now.
Because he doesn’t even, want to talk about it.
And keeps saying chill no. Chodd na etc etc..
We weren’t dating.
Not my boyfriend.

A very good friend,but we just knew, that we liked each other as more than just friends.
Like, I can never say no to him or shout at him, even if I don’t like what’s happening.

So there was a time when the way he was behaving was bothering me too much.
So instead of shouting or saying anything.
I was a little sarcastic.
So probably that pissed him off.
But how much could I just keep putting up with it?
And then with all this,he apparently, told a mutual friend, that he couldn’t listen to more.
But he was just not bothered about him hurting me.
Or atleast that’s what I think..
So I don’t know, I am jus pissed.
He just started behaving weirdly without a reason.
And I’m stressing too much about it.
So much that it’s affecting my health.
I just want the friend, I had back like we were..

Help me out 🙂

Ans :

A greater degree of relations heal with letting down your ego and forgiving each other.

Here’s an apology and truthful answer i could give to this question ..

Here’s what might work out if said to him..


Hey dear, i know i have been little sarcastic to you..
i am really sorry about it..
i just feel so bad and so distant even besides u.
Will you forgive me please.
Give me a chance to prove that i am worth being a best friend.
It feels so bad to wake up on a morning and find you have no one to take care and express your affection and love!
i miss ya man!
I miss the good old times we had.
Look, if there is anything wrong i did. and i know i did. I know i can’t change what you felt then.
Maybe never.
i just want to know, what should i have done..
i know i reacted. i want you to to help me out,to let me know ..
So that i don’t hurt somebody like u again 🙂
Will you help me out knowing this 🙂

It’s been killing me with curiosity, since so many days after i woke up after that reaction.
i just felt so worse, that how could i behave like that to a best friend of mine..
I was just not myself.
I just want you to understand, that maybe i was way too wrong, but will you let me back the same way, as we were before!
I just want another chance to prove myself 🙂
one last thing is, its not the chill thing that kills me ..
its the thing that, after all this.. i am not even worth a reason.. that kills me 🙂
i want to be a better person, please let me know the truth 🙂

Here is what Gurudev says :

Q: If someone, whom you know loves and cares for you, doesn’t show it to you anymore, how do you still believe that they do and not get angry with them?

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: Give them some time, let them take a break and recharge them self to show you their care back again.

People do need a little bit of recharging again and again.
You have drawn all that love and attention from them and it needs a little more time to get recharged.

Just know they are recharging their batteries.

If you demand from someone to show you their love, it is not going to work. On the contrary, it will be counterproductive.

So never demand and never question, ‘Why don’t you love me?’ Don’t say that.
In fact, you should say the other way around, ‘Why do you love me so much? I don’t deserve it.

Why do you love me so much? You love me too much, I can’t take it anymore.’

Tell them this and you will see everything changes.

You know, it is such a burden for someone to prove their love for you.
Suppose someone tells you the same thing, ‘I don’t think you love me, come on show me.’
Then you will think, ‘Oh my God, how should I prove that I really love him.’

It is such a burden and nobody wants to carry such a burden on their head all the time.
Everyday you come home and prove that you really love your spouse at home.

No! Take it for granted and move on. Don’t try to make someone accountable to prove their love for you.

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Situation 2 :

I have a friend and am talking to that person because..he started drinking after shifting  to a new place..And he is not ready to quit smoking at any cost..
And i told him to do YES!+, so he spoke utter rubbish about AOL & my teacher..so i told him that i will talk to him when he quits smoking.
There is a cold war going on between us.
How do i handle this and get back?

Ans :

First you stop rejecting and chill out yourself..
Just accept this fact that he drinks n smokes..
Right now as a responsible person, just meet him once over a cup of coffee and with lots of love tell him that i don’t hate you..
just that whatever you are doing.. i am fearing it will make you feel miserable in future.. i don’t want to lose a friend like you..
If you feel, its difficult to give up, then i assure you, the techniques in the course i am telling, surely does help 🙂

Look i feel so miserable seeing you go away, in smoking and drinking addictions.. tujhe kya problem hai.. ki tu drink aur smoke karta hai.. normal life is exciting too!
And i am telling, i have seen people, who used to drink heavily n smoke, that have found way out of this 🙂

I know you are a hardworking person 🙂
And deep down i know, you care for others too.
I respect you and right now i just feel there are better alternatives to feel the high like Kriya 🙂

A very sincere request to you, to give up all this.
i am with you, if you want to give up.
Even if no one supports, i am there besides you..
will you just give it up..
If its difficult to give up at once, then give up for one week.. then practise next week.
Before that, come with me for next YES!+.
I am sure, you love fun.
YES!+ is all about, giving up the bad and becoming best.
I can’t promise you’ll be the best immediately, but you’ll surely get, what you need 🙂

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May you all be happy and peaceful!
Love and Light!
JaiGurudeva!
Swapnil 🙂

PS : Hatred is just a doubt which u don’t dare to introspect and re-live it again and again..
Deep down you are just love.
Question your doubt, hatred and negativity, again and again.
This way instead of re-living; u relieve yourself of  all this negativity 🙂

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